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Cherished: Stop Self-Deprecating, and Start Being Kind

Being loved and cherished by the Almighty, we are free to accept ourselves. It is time to stop self-deprecating, and start being kind to ourselves.



Psst! Come in close. I have a secret…You are AWESOME! Yes, I am talking to you. You are God’s creation, made in his image. How can you be anything other than wonderful? Believe it!

Some of you don’t believe this. I know because I’ve heard you and even joined you in making comments like: “I am so fat.” “I have to smile because I have resting *****face.” “It is a bad hair day.” “Why do I look like this?” I have looked at myself in the mirror and seen someone so wanting that it seemed impossible to see why anyone would want me.

Cherished: Stop Self-Deprecating

Here is a hard truth I want you to think about, because I love you…

Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen cannot love God, whom they have not seen. And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister.

1 John 4:19-21

Added to this, I would also say that God wants you to love yourself. Way easier said than done, I know, but we have to work on this.

Here is my naked confession: I have seen myself as short, fat, doudy, babyish, bossy, ugly, unattractive, and unlovable. I have cried myself to sleep, felt deep shame for walking out the door, and wondered why God even put me on this earth. In front of others I have demeaned myself and worse, I’ve done it in front of my daughter.

I don’t want to add extra stress to your life, but we have to stop it. You are a child of God. I am a child of God. He doesn’t want you, or anyone, putting you down.

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:4-7

Being loved and cherished by the Almighty, we are free to accept ourselves. It is time to stop self-deprecating, and start being kind to ourselves.

Cherished: Be Kind to Yourself

Jesus loves you so much. He chose you, even knowing you are imperfect. He was born, lived, worked, loved everyone, and died for you! Jesus was, is, and always will be perfect. So His love for you is equally perfect. Remember how Jesus feels about you.

No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and His love is made complete in us.

1 John 4:12

Being loved and cherished by the Almighty, we are free to accept ourselves. It is time to stop self-deprecating, and start being kind to ourselves.

So what should we do when we want to say these things or hear others say them? Simple…Pray. Open your heart to God and let His love pour into you. He will always be there in the moment. He will drive the doubt and fear away and give you the joy He means for you to feel in His love.

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.

1 John 4:18

I have found prayers in God’s word are so comforting. They are His word and float right to my heart. When I am feeling defeated or tempted to say self deprecating comments, I remember His word.

I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through Him who give me strength.

Philipians 4:12-13


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Being loved and cherished by the Almighty, we are free to accept ourselves. It is time to stop self-deprecating, and start being kind to ourselves.

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You are fiercely loved, and in this love, fear can no longer remain!

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Written by Heather Molaro
These blurbs always make me crazy. Am I saying enough, too much, the right things, the wrong things? Number one thing I want you to know about me is that I LOVE my God! He is the reason for everything. I have a wonderful husband, two kids who light up my world, and am an elementary school teacher, which keeps me super busy. My new calling has been writing. I pray that through God's grace the words that I write are His desires for you and me.

16 thoughts on “Cherished: Stop Self-Deprecating, and Start Being Kind

  1. I love this encouragement, and tongue lashing, Heather! I needed and deserved every bit! One thing my husband says to me is, “No-one is allowed to speak negatively of you, not even you.” This reminds me of how our Father feels about us. His heart hurts when anyone, even ourselves, talks down on us. <3

  2. Heather, I love the way you grabbed us by the scruff of the neck and shook us! Thank you so much. I have struggled with these sorts of thoughts all my life and I know that they are not from God. As you said, it is hard to remember that we are beautifully and wonderfully created in His image and for us to question that or pretend it isn’t true is just wrong! I am doing better these days, but it is still good to have the encouragement of a sister in Christ. Thanks again! – Amy

  3. I love this post! I believe we all can be hard on ourselves from time to time, and we forget how God loves us even in what we may perceive as imperfections!

    1. I am trying hard to see myself though God’s light. I want my daughter to know how special she is, so I have to also know how special I am, because God made me.

  4. “Open your heart to God and let His love pour into you.” – This has been so important for me in shrugging of the past lies I was told when I was younger and then believed about myself. (They still creep back in at times). But you are so right, God is there in that moment! Thank you for this reminder!

  5. I haven’t been nice to myself either. If I was a friend, I would have gotten a new friend years ago 😉
    I have said things about myself in front of my daughter also! I pray I can show her how much she means to God just as she is!

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